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by Aviva Pflock,Julie Bort

Download Mommy Guilt: Learn to Worry Less, Focus on What Matters Most, and Raise Happier Kids eBook
ISBN:
0814408702
Author:
Aviva Pflock,Julie Bort
Category:
Family Relationships
Language:
English
Publisher:
AMACOM (April 8, 2005)
Pages:
256 pages
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1810 kb
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1974 kb
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Rating:
4.7
Votes:
652


One strength of the book is the inclusion of practical examples of ‘Mommy Guilt,’ alternative ways to think about them, and strategies to deal with them.

One strength of the book is the inclusion of practical examples of ‘Mommy Guilt,’ alternative ways to think about them, and strategies to deal with them. I particularly like the authors’ use of a developmental approach throughout the book. This developmental approach not only assists parents in dealing with their current issues, but also provides them with a glimpse into the future when their coping strategies will need to change.

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Through practical, tried-and-true tips, anecdotes, quizzes, and worksheets, Mommy Guilt illustrates how moms can fend off the guilt and focus on what really matters.

I found this book very useful with great tips on how to focus on what really matters. Also, it helped me realize my guilt feelings are normal and how I can deal with these feelings and make parenting more enjoyable. All moms should read this excellent book! 0. Report. Ditch the guilt, keep the kids. com User, April 8, 2005.

Mommy Guilt is a book whose time has come. Aviva Pflock is a certified parent-education and child-development specialist with a focus on early childhood education. She is the mother of two daughters and one son. Devra Renner, MSW, is a clinical social worker who works with children and their families in school, community, home, summer camp, and hospital settings.

Book Excerpt - Chapter 3 The Seven Principles of the Mommy Guilt-Free Philosophy. Take Care of Yourself – Kindness Challenge. One of our all-time faves for moms who deal with guilt. where does your mom guilt come from? One of our all-time faves for moms who deal with guilt. Mommy Guilt: Learn to Worry Less, Focus on What Matters Most, and Raise Happier Kids Julie Bort, Aviva Pflock, Devra Renner Gordon. com: Mommy Guilt: Learn to Worry Less, Focus on What Matters Most, and Raise Happier Kids eBook: Julie Bort, Aviva Pflock, Devra Renner MSW: Kindle Store.

Two-thirds of respondents named yelling - not working or spanking or missing a school event - as their biggest guilt inducer. What blew us away about that is that the one thing you really have ultimate control over is the tone of your voice, said Ms. Pflock, a child development specialist. Continue reading the.

Easy-to-read advice for modern moms that doesn't condescend or preach. Recommended Reading for Pregnancy.

to worry less, focus on what matters most and raise happier kids"

Mommy Guilt: Learn to worry less, focus on what matters most and raise happier kids".

This week Maria speaks with Devra Renner & Aviva Pflock, co-authors of Mommy Guilt? .

This week Maria speaks with Devra Renner & Aviva Pflock, co-authors of Mommy Guilt? Learn to worry less, focus on what matters most, and raise happier kids. Next she speaks with Margaret Sagarese, co-author of Boy Crazy!? Keeping your daughter’s feet on the ground when her head is in the clouds.

"Parents today try too hard to be superhuman, often sacrificing their own well-being -- and relationships with friends, family, even their spouses -- to meet the ever-increasing demands of their children's lives. Of course, such efforts inevitably fall short, and parents blame themselves. Mommy Guilt encourages parents to let go of unobtainable (and ill-advised) goals in favor of parenting philosophies that concentrate on the whole family. This eye-opening book presents the results of an original, never-before-published nationwide survey of over 1,300 parents -- 96% of whom reported they felt guilty about some aspect of parenting. The most common include yelling, family time, work choices, school, and sports. Mommy Guilt offers straightforward principles for handling these and many other common issues -- as well as for dealing with everyday challenges that frequently add up to feelings of guilt. Through practical, tried-and-true tips, anecdotes, quizzes, and worksheets, Mommy Guilt illustrates how moms can fend off the guilt and focus on what really matters."
  • Bolanim
As a mom of twin preschoolers, I devour mommy books ~~ simply because there are days when it's so chaotic that I need to read to clear my head. This book ~~ highly recommended to my local chapter by the national chapter of Mothers & More ~~ is definitely a godsend. This book zeroes in exactly some of my worst guilts and these fabulous authors set the record straight!

Moms are often targeted by different sources to feel guilty ~~ if they spend more time cleaning the house than with the kids, they feel guilty that they're short-changing the kids. If they work outside the home, they feel guilty for not being there with their kids or they feel guilty that they're enjoying work. Moms feel guilty over disciplining their kids. Moms feel guilty, period. It must be one of those requirements of motherhood ~~ you will feel guilt. At one time or another.

These authors not only tell you to relax ~~ your feelings are valid ~~ but they also offer you suggestions that they have gleamed from their friends, experiences and from talking with other moms. This book is chock full of experiences ~~ from moms dealing with potty training, breast-feeding to raising teenagers, to having a blended family and so on. Their advice are practical and common sensical. They also interject humor as well ~~ life doesn't need to be so serious, so lighten up!

The seven principles of the Mommy-Guilt Free philosophy couldn't have come at a better time for me personally. They are really simple and I would list the basic principles here ~~ but you really need to get a copy of this book for yourself to read more in-depth of what these authors are talking about. It's that good!

Some of the basic principles are: You must be willing to let some things go. Parenting is not a competitive sport. Laugh alot especially with your children, and so on. (These are the ones that I need the most right now ~~ however, I plan to apply the other principles as needed!) This book isn't a book to read once ~~ this is a book that you probably will need to thumb through over and over again throughout your life with your children. This is also a book you might want to pass down to your children ~~ life is too short to live with guilt. And this is a pretty good start to work on getting rid of unnecessary guilt!

So, if anyone wants to borrow my copy, I will have to say, sorry. My copy is not for loan ~~ I know that I will need it over and over again. This is definitely a must-have for every mom (even dads have guilt and there is a section on that too!) ~~ even if you don't think you need it. It's just a great refresher on parenting!

10-24-05
  • Cordabor
this is sort of a "how to", you know the kind that tells you what you already know, and makes you think you can actually implement the ideas. when it comes down to it, if you just want validation for what you're feeling, and want to know why you're feeling that way, this probably isn't the solution. this explains what you can do to change your situation
  • Nagor
This book has some good advice but I wanted more meat and less stories. If you like anecdotes, this is a great help-book.
  • Yanthyr
Very good book for a parent struggling with how to parent "correctly". Helped me with ideas on how to treat situations that every parent runs into.
  • Akta
Very few of us have ever gone through parenthood without serious feelings of guilt, and those feelings definitely have their impact on us. In addition, many of us are "carriers," dumping that guilt on others so that everyone around us shares our psychological problems. The authors of this book think that's silly.

Mothers and fathers, usually with an emphasis on mothers (fathers have other problems) harbor deep-seated guilt that is really not necessary or appropriate. The authors explain this in page after fascinating page. In many cases, illustrating their points, they compare the non-guilt behavior with the guilt-laden response to situations. What a learning experience this book can be for all of us! I've already given it to my wife as a significant gift. I hope it will help!

After reading Mommy Guilt, I told my wife about the authors' Seven Principles of the Mommy Guilt-Free Philosophy: You must be willing to let some things go. Parenting is not a competitive sport. Look forward to the future and at the big picture. Don't become overly hung up on the here and now. Learn when and how to live in the moment. Get used to saying yet more often and being able to defend your no. Laugh a lot, especially with your children. Make sure you set aside specific time to have fun as a family. And, dear readers, that's only on page 17! Each of the principles is explained, with lots of examples that enable the pages to leap to life.

As you might expect with this kind of a book, there's a survey in the appendix so you can test your own guilt ratio. Lots of explanation to help you understand the meanings and cures for your problems. And, a helpful tool all by itself, there's an Emergency Guilt-Relief Guide in the back of the book, right before the index.

This one's a keeper! But...when you give it to someone as a gift-because you know they need it, do so with love instead of with "I told you so" as the underlying attitude. Guilt is tricky, and you'll learn a lot in these pages.

PS--Valuable skills for the workplace, as well as family.