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by Bill Klatte MSW LCSW,Kate Thompson

Download It's So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted eBook
ISBN:
1572244968
Author:
Bill Klatte MSW LCSW,Kate Thompson
Category:
Relationships
Language:
English
Publisher:
New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (July 1, 2007)
Pages:
200 pages
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Rating:
4.1
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Bill Klatte and Kate Thompson have written a very helpful book that will allow you to regain control of your life. They go over all the issues you are probably dealing with on a daily basis. They explain that you cannot always control a troubled loved one but you can control how you react.

Bill Klatte and Kate Thompson have written a very helpful book that will allow you to regain control of your life. By taking charge of yourself you may inspire your TLO to start taking care of themselves too. This might be a little overwhelming to read all in one sitting because there is so much journaling to be done

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Bill Klatte, Kate Thompson. Smart Strategies for Dealing with People Who Are Really Hard to Love. He is also addicted to gambling. This book gave me peace from the emotional rollar coaster I was on. Читать весь отзыв.

You don't want to let go of this person, but you do want to stop getting hurt. It's So Hard to Love You - written by a brother-and-sister team - offers tools that will help you deal with the anguish of loving a difficult person while maintaining a sane relationship with him or her. Using the strategies in this audiobook, you'll start to clearly recognize the negative effects your loved one's behavior is having on your life

by Kate Thompson and Bill Klatte.

by Kate Thompson and Bill Klatte. Smart Strategies for Dealing with People Who Are Really Hard to Love Most of us have someone in our life that we care about, but who is really hard to love: a spouse or sibling with an addiction or anger problem, a parent whose actions frighten or frustrate you, an adult child whom you feel makes the wrong choices over and over, or. a friend or other relative who can't get it together.

Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted

Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted. by Bill Klatte Author · Kate Thompson Author. It includes tips on avoiding codependence, overcoming the impulse to change the difficult loved one, and preventing your own needs and boundaries from being subverted by the desires of the difficult individual. Self-Improvement Nonfiction. Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted. It's So Hard to Love You. Close. Published July 2007 by New Harbinger Publications.

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Smart Strategies for Dealing with People Who Are Really Hard to Love.

It's So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted by Bill Klatte, Kate Thompson English ISBN: 1572244968 200 pages PDF 3 MB. Just because someone you love has a problem, though, doesn't mean you stop loving him or her. You don't want to let go of this person, but you do want to stop getting hurt. It's So Hard to Love You-written by a brother-and-sister team-offers tools that will help you deal with the anguish of loving a difficult person while maintaining a sane relationship with him or her.

Smart Strategies for Dealing with People Who Are Really Hard to Love

Most of us have someone in our life that we care about, but who is really hard to love: a spouse or sibling with an addiction or anger problem, a parent whose actions frighten or frustrate you, an adult child whom you feel makes the wrong choices over and over, or a friend or other relative who can't get it together. Just because someone you love has a problem, though, doesn't mean you stop loving him or her. You don't want to let go of this person, but you do want to stop getting hurt.

It's So Hard to Love You—written by a brother-and-sister team—offers tools that will help you deal with the anguish of loving a difficult person while maintaining a sane relationship with him or her. Using the strategies in this book, you'll start to clearly recognize the negative effects your loved one's behavior is having on your life. You'll learn to accept that this person's actions may not ever change—but that your actions can. You'll find ways to shift your focus from changing the difficult person to changing your reactions to him or her. As you learn to deal with your difficult loved one on your own terms, you'll also learn techniques for managing the possible negative reactions that can arise from your changing relationship.

  • Chi
It was ok. It took me a long time to read it. There were too many questions that I had to answer.
  • Keel
book club choice
  • It's so easy
I ordered this book because my boyfriend is one of those who is hard to love,, I have not had the time to read it all yet, but it came in excellent conditon and so far makes for a good read,, thank you
  • Ffyan
The book really hit the nail on the head.
  • Grari
Are you tired of being manipulated, used, bullied or guilt-tripped? Is there someone in your life who is out of control and doesn't respect personal boundaries? You may be dealing with a "troubled loved one" or a TLO. These types of people can expect you to babysit at a minutes notice, may have mental problems that need medication or have drinking or anger problems. Some of the examples in this book include parents who are worried about their kids living on the street or have a troubled child living at home that needs to learn how to be independent. Whichever way you look at these problems this book has some interesting and empowering solutions that will lead you to a place where you are making conscious choices that create a more peaceful life.

Bill Klatte and Kate Thompson have written a very helpful book that will allow you to regain control of your life. They go over all the issues you are probably dealing with on a daily basis. They explain that you cannot always control a troubled loved one but you can control how you react. By taking charge of yourself you may inspire your TLO to start taking care of themselves too.

This might be a little overwhelming to read all in one sitting because there is so much journaling to be done. Part of the healing is realizing how you are part of the problem and journaling may bring you to this awareness. "It's So Hard to Love You" is more about loving yourself enough to get healthy and mentally stable and doesn't really deal with solutions for your troubled loved one's life. Bill Klatte and Kate Thompson explain how to be more assertive without blowing up. They teach basic and advanced communications skills that help you to set up boundaries so you are not being taken advantage of on a regular basis. Through the exercises presented you learn to manage your own emotions while at the same time lessening the anger in your TLO.

I'd recommend this book for anyone who has a person in their life who is making them emotionally unstable. Whether this is a friend, spouse, a child or a parent, this book has some very smart ways of dealing with troubling issues. The goal of this book is to lessen the stress in your life and I can say from personal experience that the TLO in your life may in fact change their bad habits once you start changing yours. You will notice less fighting, a sense of empowerment and a general feeling of peace once you start making the right decisions. It is true that you are the only person you can change and you will be amazed how this can in turn change how people treat you on a daily basis. Even one small change like withdrawing from an argument can have huge results.

Highly Recommended! The advice in this book works.

~The Rebecca Review
  • Darksinger
Writers turn out an insightful, practical self-help article for "Cosmo"or "Redbook." Some editor is impressed, contacts the authors, asks if they'd like to expand their short piece into a full-length book.

They would, they do. Problem is, their original article already offered 90% of what any reader needs to know. So their manuscript starts like gangbusters--and why shouldn't it? It's their original article, with some of the cuts (for space) restored.

But the rest of the book is just filler with plenty of rhetorical questions--repetitious, obvious, trivial. The ignition switch is off, but the engine is still dieseling.

Which brings us to "It's So Hard . . . " If your relationship has more than a few characteristics cited in the first checklist, you have three options:

1) Do nothing and hope the dysfunctional one will stop [___]ing and start [____]ing, the way healthy, normal people do.

2) Dump the loser.

3A) Gently separate yourself emotionally and financially, with no rancor, *AND* 3B)Wish this person well, and move on.

Guess which option the authors gently--but firmly--suggest?

That first chapter gave me the reassurance I'd done the right thing in ending a parasitic romance. But the rest of the book is nothing but reiterations of points covered in the first chapter, plus literally dozens of quizzes and suggestions to start "journaling" (which my SpellCheck insists is not a word!). If you don't buy a notebook, there are and plenty of blank lines where you can write in your answers. (Even with this shameless sawdust filler, the book runs less than 190 pages!) To pad the text even more, we are given random, seemingly misplaced case histories in a "Dear Abby" first-person format--whose issues are NOT discussed or analyzed in the following paragraphs.

Problem is, such relentless introspective navel-gazing makes you less fun to be around. Worse, it focuses you on the past and present, not on the healthier circumstances you want to achieve--and recognize in any significant other who's *objectively* significant.

But as other writers have pointed out, we keep attracting the same "wrong" boyfriends/girlfriends for the same wrong reason(s) until they finally teach us, without meaning to, the long-needed lessons that can change *US*, not them.
  • Thundershaper
This is an extremely good text/workbook for those who sincerely desire practical and effective ways to deal with problem people in their lives. If you just read, or skim through it, it without doing the exercises and journaling involved, this book is not for you. However, if you're willing to do some work on yourself, in your problem relationships, you cannot help but come away with real ways to change the ways you've tried to cope that weren't successful. This is a wonderful guide to the sincere seeker of solutions for untangling enmeshed relationships. It's great to learn how you actually do have the power to change the cycle of frustration that earmarks dealing with troubled loved ones.
This book is so helpful, detailed, practical and concise to find solutions to the current frustrations I have in my relationship. This book gave me the clear understanding of "love and respectful boundaries without giving up on your love one; to pursue my own healthy happiness. I gave this 5 stars! I liked it so much that I couldn't put the book down.