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by Sam R. Hamburg,Sam R. Hamburg PH.D.

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ISBN:
0684864924
Author:
Sam R. Hamburg,Sam R. Hamburg PH.D.
Category:
Relationships
Language:
English
Publisher:
Scribner; 1st THUS edition (August 2001)
Pages:
240 pages
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A Couple's Road Map solves this mystery by giving readers a new understanding of love - an understanding . Hamburg knows all about keeping couples together.

A Couple's Road Map solves this mystery by giving readers a new understanding of love - an understanding they can actually use to evaluate the soundness of their relationships and to answer confidently the crucial questions that mystified them before. explains how compatibility is the key to lasting love.

Will Our Love Last?: A Couple's Road Map. by Sam R. Hamburg. Will our love last? Men and women in love are haunted by these questions

Will Our Love Last?: A Couple's Road Map. Am I with the right person? Will our love last? Men and women in love are haunted by these questions. Love - especially why it blossoms in relationships and why it later dies - is a mystery to them. Will Our Love Last? A Couple's Road Map solves this mystery by giving readers a new understanding of love - an understanding they can actually use to evaluate the soundness of their relationships and to answer confidently the crucial questions that mystified them before.

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A Couple's Road Map. In this unconventional guide, Sam R. Hamburg, P. explains how to eliminate the guesswork and pick the right romantic partner. The first step-by-step guide to choosing a life partner based on sexual, practical, and emotional compatibility In every romantic relationship, men and women alike wonder whether their love will stand the test of time. 2 5 Yazan(lar): Sam R. Will our love last? Men and women in love are haunted by these questions. E-kitap olarak mevcuttur.

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A Couple's Road Map" by Sam R. Will Our Love Last? A Couple's Road Map.

The first step-by-step guide to choosing a life partner based on sexual, practical, and emotional compatibility In every romantic relationship, men and women alike wonder whether their love will stand the test of time. In this unconventional guide, Sam R. Hamburg, Ph.D., explains how to eliminate the guesswork and pick the right romantic partner. Basing his findings on hundreds of cases in his twenty-five years as a marital therapist and thirty years in his own marriage, Dr. Hamburg shows that in the best unions partners are deeply compatible in all areas -- from sex to daily decision making to beliefs about life. With an innovative approach, Dr. Hamburg guides couples in understanding how compatible they are in each dimension and he empowers them to make important relationship decisions that are intellectually and emotionally informed. Written in a clear and direct style, Will Our Love Last? teaches couples at any stage of commitment how to avoid mistakes and find lasting love.
  • Gajurus
According to the author, there are 3 dimensions necessary for a successful relationship. They are:

1 -- the Practical dimension
This is about how well you live and work together.
Are you someone who moves quickly or slowly?
Are you an early riser or a night owl?
Is your decorating style Sleek Modern or Cluttered Country?

These issues may sound petty, but if way off on this dimension, couples could easily grate on each other's nerves.

2 - the Sexual dimension
This goes beyond sexual attraction to include sexual style.
Do you like quiet, missionary style sex or loud, try-every-position-imaginable sex?
Do you like sex once a day or once a month?

If way off on this dimension, couples will both feel frustrated. The person wanting less sex will feel like a spoilsport and the partner wanting more sex will feel like they are on a sex diet.

3 - the Wavelength dimension
This is about the meeting of the minds.
Is your sense of humor quietly witty or loud and raunchy?
If the baby's crying, is it best to pick them up or let them cry it out?
How do you feel about eating meat?

Ideally, everyone would kindly respect each other's differences in values and opinions. The reality is that when someone disagrees with strongly held value, we view that person as naive, crazy, or stupid...and respect goes out the window.

According to the author, dissatisfied couples have only one or two of these dimensions present. That's not to say couples can't have differences. Differences encourage growth and keep the other interesting. They just need to be close enough on these dimensions so good times will outweigh bad. I agree and see this as a smart take on relationships.
  • Fohuginn
I've been reading a lot of relationship books lately because I ended one devastating relationship and I needed to figure out why it just wouldn't work. Oddly enough, the new man I'm dating recommended this one. It was such a beautiful gesture -- I realized as I read it. This is a very insightful book. There are basically three categories of compatibility and if you understand that, you know where to focus your attention in your relationship. I'm happy to say the new relationship is working out beautifully and I think the insights gleaned from this book are a huge part of why we feel so connected.
  • Barinirm
I'm buying this book again for a friend, and for myself.

I first read this book after I had separated from my first husband. I had been trying various techniques of saving my marriage, nad trying to build "compatibility," defined as having common interests. This book helped me qualify and quantify the deep incompaitbilities that existed between my first H and me. We couldn't even agree about how incompatible we were.

But here's where it gets good. A few years later, I met a man. We liked different things. I read, he watched TV. I like ethnic food,his idea of ethnic food was spaghetti. But, thanks to this book, I realized that we were very compatible in all three areas. This was the best relatinship I ever had, and it only ended with his death.

The difference between my first marriage and my second was night an day. Yes there were some times when we each wondered what we had gotten ourselves into, but more than 85% of the time it was filled with laughter and peace.
  • Rasmus
since I am just beginning to apply it to my current situation. But after reading it, I certainly see where some past relationships have gone wrong.

And the basic theory does make intuitive sense: Hamburg focuses on physical issues, practical compatibility (day-to-day teamwork) and what he calls "wavelength compatibility" (that is, broader ways of looking at the world, and similarity of opinions on big issues such as religion). As he points out, if your prospective mate flunks on all three criteria, further communication and hard work will only make it clearer that he or she is not a good match.

My only real quarrel with Hamburg so far is his suggestions about which issues couples must resolve before being married. For example, he thinks that a couple should decide before marriage whether to have a "traditional marriage" (i.e. one where the male earns most of the money) or a more egalitarian mrriage. I am not sure that one can know in advance how "traditional" one's marriage can be; presumably most reasonable couples would move towards a less traditional marriage if the spouses' earning power is roughly equal, but towards a more traditional marriage if one spouse's economic contribution turns out to be minimal.
  • Adaly
well written ....not typical relationship POP Phys....". Brilliantly fresh approach...Martial Happiness is in "the right PICK"!
  • Conjuril
A very straightforward book that defines how personalities work well together or not! The most insightful book on why our friendships AND dating relationships bring out our best or worst. Read it before you marry the wrong person, and enjoy it with someone who you relate well to.
  • Sagda
Very helpful read. I did find the hand movement rating difficult to grasp but the concepts in the book were helpful.